10 Signs You Need a New Therapist By Courtney Stivers, PhD ~ 3 min readIf you are in counseling now or consider seeking a therapist in the future, it is important to choose a counselor who is the right fit for you. I am always saddened to hear of an individual or couple giving up on counseling after one bad experience. Therapists are each unique in their specific approaches and you deserve one who is qualified to meet your needs.Here are a few signs that you may need a new therapist.
Childhood is life, not preparation for life
There is a large industry in America devoted to making parents anxious, mainly so they will spend money on products and services that temporarily ease their anxieties. One recurring theme in that industry’s messaging is preparation.
To pick an example out of a hat, one popular recent parenting book is called How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success. Yes, after years of pressuring parents to do more, the parenting industry is now pressuring them to do less. Either way, the goal is the same: Prepare Your Kid for Success. Your child must be carefully tended to, exposed to the proper amount and intensity of stimulation, challenged but never discouraged, socialized but also individuated, taught the right skills and sent to the right lessons and schools but definitely not overparented … all to maximize her chances of Adult Success.
Remember the research, though. Most of your parenting choices pale in significance to who you are, how much money you make, and where you live. Within those parameters, your choices are unlikely to substantially affect your kid’s Adult Success at all. Whether she succeeds as an adult has to do with her genes, her friends, and a whole boatload of luck and circumstance.
(The image has nothing to do with this. After 20 minutes of searching, I picked a random thing in the Yahoo image search that made me smirk.)
I’m not sure where the change happened with Legends of Windemere. Not with me picking random books from the series to put behind the vague links. The focus of the series diverted at some point and I think some people have picked up on it. Yes, there’s an epic quest for the champions to gain their full power in time to defeat their enemy. Yes, they are traveling along a path of destiny that is still a little vague on the details. All of that remains the same with each book having the main plot carried by a contained story. Yet, I think my focus has hoped to another rail.
That would be a big concentration on character…
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There has probably been no greater investing mantra placed upon an industry in recent memory than the now reflexive, as well as defensive response of “It’s different this time” when questioning anything Social. Trying to understand the business model along with its metrics, valuations and more is not only arduous, the response seems more akin to pulling teeth without anesthesia for those selling it, defending it, or both.
Those that have been with me for a while know I have little use for the whole “social media” thing. Although, while I don’t use any of it myself, that doesn’t mean I don’t see value and innovation in many of them. Again, I don’t use them, nor have accounts. However, I do have share buttons on my own site for those that do. So let me be clear:
It’s the valuations along with the metrics of their underlying business models and…
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