‘skinny’ | Welcome to a new friend: Sharifah The unassuming citizen

Ramblings about the world we live in.


Psychology, society, aesthetics and things that soothe the soul are my passions and greatest interests. I try to live my life being inspired by these areas and the little things that come underneath each broad theme. I am greatly interested in what makes us tick, why we do certain things, how to take control of our lives and many other burning questions that everyone wants answered.

I recently made the decision to drastically alter my life for the better. As a student, I try my hardest to fully connect with each subject and get the best mark I can achieve; education was something I used to treat as a sideline but I have changed that. Depression used to affect me greatly and I couldn’t seem to get out of a never-ending slump, but with guided meditation, a gym membership and a change in perception, I changed that too. Anyone can turn their life around, they just have to realise that they have the power to do so. And I did.

So, if you are on the journey to being a better version of yourself, I would love for you to share with me mine.

– Sharifah


Why do most women long to be thinner?

Most girls I know, see on the internet and hear about in the media want to lose weight. This is the same whether they are 300lbs overweight or already slender. I am one of these girls. I hate myself for doing it, but I constantly think about how I would look better if I was a bit smaller, or more toned. I seem to always be on a diet or desperately trying to convince myself I can be happy with being the healthy weight I am now. No matter what weight I am, I always find myself feeling fat.

Why is this? I’m not fat – in fact I’m a healthy weight and look fine in my clothes. Even though I technically know this, I still go to the gym in hopes of losing a few pounds. I don’t have an eating disorder, I eat enough.Where is this pressure coming from, and is it the same for all girls?

I feel like the media is easy to blame for a lot of negative things in the world, which is bad for me as a training journalist. However, women’s magazines, tabloid newspapers and gossip sites undeniably play a huge part in creating the low self confidence in women that makes them think that they need to be slim to be happy. The only images we ever seem to be shown are of women who are size 10 or lower with extremely toned bodies. Images are photo-shopped beyond recognition and we naively believe that we should look like these unachievable ideals. Usually when celebrities with normal bodies are shown in the media, they are shamed and headlines such as ‘my body hell’ and ‘diet disasters’ are accompanying them. This is where responsible journalism should come into play – the journalists who write these stories should think about the consequences. If the stories sell though, which they do, there’s no hope of them ever being stopped. Looking at it this way, are we responsible for our own self- esteem and body confidence?

In a way I believe this to be true. Something as simple as changing your mindset can change your whole life. Body confidence comes from within, there’s no doubt about it. How else could big girls who are confident about their bodies and feel fabulous exist? This being said, when external factors such as size bias in shop displays, social pressure, body shaming and magazines are chipping away at our confidence and filling us with doubt, it’s hard to find a positive point of view.

The problem is we care too much about what others think and live our lives in fear of judgement. We compare ourselves to others. I suppose this is natural in society. To fit in, we must strive to reach societal ideals. But when these ideals are unrealistic and painfully false, it’s no wonder us females are all struggling to accept our bodies.


via ‘skinny’ | The unassuming citizen.

Rainy day therapy


“Rain is grace; rain is the sky descending to the earth; without rain, there would be no life.” – John Updike

What is it about the rain that’s so therapeutic?

When I hear the pitter-patter on my window as I’m falling asleep, my head seems to sink into my pillow more so than without it. I feel more relaxed, focusing on the splashes gently hitting the glass.

I always wondered why the rain was my favourite weather. Is it to do with having a melancholic soul, or is it soothing to everyone?

On rainy days, I seem to get more done. It makes me feel happy, and therefore more motivated. Today, I completed a 2,500 word piece of work, got my shopping done, eat healthily and  planned out my weak and budget. There’s no way I would usually get this much done, but as soon as the rain hit the ground on my way home from shopping, I began to feel refreshed.

I like to think those who long for the rain like me are more pensive than others. Because they, like me, wish for the ambience that comes with rain. The contemplative feeling that brings me inner calm.

Although it makes me more productive, a lot of people love the rain because of the stillness it brings. Really heavy downpours can bring the world to a halt. Whilst everyone else has stopped, you can appreciate the peaceful tranquillity and rejuvenate yourself. Many people stop with the rest of the rest of the world. It’s a chance to reflect, or a chance to fall into your favourite armchair and have a nice hot cup of tea.

So, next time you’re feeling stressed, listen to the sound of rain(there are many sources on the internet) and plug in some refreshing air freshener. hopefully it will bring you the same calmness it brings me!



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