The Good Curl |Welcome to a new Friend: Robin Josey

Fabulously Natural

via …my journey | The Good Curl.

…my journey


It’s not so much going natural, as it’s a RETURN.

I had previously worn my hair in different styles, but always relaxed. At its shortest, I relaxed the curls, but not all the way to keep my hair wavy. Lots of people liked my hair this way, and so did I. The funny thing, I thought my short, relaxed pixie was easier to manage and looked better than my actual natural curls.

Then, as it always does, life decides to throw you a sinking fastball.

In 2011, I was in a car accident that made it impossible to do anything, but sit and lay down, let alone do anything to my hair. I had already grown it longer, but it was still relaxed. At least when it was shorter, it was still curly. The bob I had at the time, was not as forgiving.  So as soon as I was given the all clear from the doctor, I decided that I would stop relaxing my hair.

And thus began my love affair with all the naturals that I have followed on YouTube. I also relied on my sister who has been natural for over 20 years. It’s been a dizzying experience. Going from relaxing my hair and having all these options I thought I had, to embracing my natural texture and realizing, that the options are really that much more once I decided to love what my hair can really do when it’s healthy.

Along the way, there have been many setbacks: breakage, TWA regret and angst, why won’t my hair grow frustration. But all of it has been informative, and led me to my blog, and what you’re reading today.

This page is dedicated to my continuing journey, and incorporates my makeup enthusiasm, and love for fashion and accessories. It includes whatever’s on my mind as well. I mean, yeah, I’m here for the hair, but let’s be real, we want to chop it up every now and then with some fun, and thought-provoking stuff on occasion.

Where else am I around the web: Just click on the icons at the upper right of the screen for where you would like to follow my journey. And thanks for coming along.


Watch “The Good Curl | The Basics Series: The Regimen” on YouTube

Episode two is now available. This séries will cover the beginning, establishing a cleansing and conditioning regimen, accessories, styles and trimming.

Thanks for watching.




Is the answer to this question a simple one? Or, is it steeped in something deeper, such as the history of slavery in the country, exhibition, or invasion of personal space.

I think there exists a true historical aspect to why this is so sensitive a subject. The very real aspect is the slavery issue where black people were put on display before being sold. Teeth were examined, musculature too. And if you’re not familar with Sarah Baartman, you should be, as her story is intriguing and sad.

Baartman, also known as the Hottentot Venus, was a freak show display in Great Britain in the 1800’s because her large cheeks and elongated labia were intriguing to the white men who paid thousands of dollars to watch her walk around a small cage. Even after her death, she was still a major attraction. Her remains were included in a French museum for white men, and black to goggle and admire.

Now, I don’t think having an event where people can come and touch your hair is akin to Sarah’s life of degradation at all. In, fact, they are not similar at all in my humble opinion. She was put in a cage, bought and sold and then after she died, further humiliated by having her publicly displayed again and again. Seen as an oddity, a sexual being only, and not treated as the woman she was. Her hair was not at issue. And far more people need to be outraged over the similarities between her and Nikki Minaj, lil Kim and Foxy Brown. (I’m dating myself with those last two, but it’s still relevant)

No, we are not on display. I can even undertsand why people would not want to be touched. But the responses are just ridiculous.


A simple no will do. Why must the response be one that almost boasts physical violence?

I’ve been told that I don’t take it seriously enough, that I need to be more militant, that I don’t understand how offensive the question is.

Excuse me? Having someone ask to touch my hair and saying yes means I’m not adequately in touch with my blackness?

I’m 46 years old, and I’ve been black for every one of those years. I’ve been called the ‘n’ word, more times than I care to remember. I think I’m well aware how black I am. I’ve been reminded everytime I look in the mirror.

It’s ridiculous to even argue about it. I think that people ask because they’re genuinely curious. I mean at least they ask. Yes, I know there are those that don’t, and there should be a different kind of response for unwelcome touching of my hair, or Amy part or my person. But I’m not going to threaten them with amputation, or my foot in their neck.

Why can’t we use the opportunity to teach someone? Or simply say, “thank you, but I’d rather you didn’t.” You’d be surprised the response you get.

I’ve had people say, it’s just so pretty and looks so soft. How do you get it to look like that. And because I wear it in twist outs a lot, I can see why I’d get that question. And I answer.

And these are from non black people.

I get more side eye, jealous stares and whispers from my kinky sisters than anyone else.

Real. Talk.

Seriously, just a simple no thank you answers the question. I realize it’s supposed to be humorous, but it’s not. And we need to do better.




I wonder if President Obama wanted to karate chop this kid in the clavicle.


And how many of us Oooooooh’d and aaaaaahd’d over this picture.

See we can’t pick one or the other. Either everyone can, or no one can.

Ya dig?

Join the discussion.

By the way, yes you can.


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